t’s a habit we have to develop — in every human interaction we must ask ourselves, “Am I making this person feel good about this interaction? Am I being boring or annoying or a know-it-all, or self absorbed and hogging the conversation? Am I listening to this person with real interest, without coming off like a desperate suck-up? Am I behaving with at least a modicum of charisma?”
MW, I couldn’t agree more. I think a lot of our men (their heart is in the right place) need a little bit of polishing. I’ve been to many a WN gathering and I encountered the same thing. People who go on and on who never stop talking. You literally cannot get a word in edgewise. They are oblivious to the body language of others that they are BORING.
It’s a turnoff and no one wants to be around that type of person. And for God’s sake the Hitler worship. Please. He’s dead. Move on. I hear about him enough on the history channel shows, let alone a WN gathering.
I’m very good at reading body language. If I sense someone is checking out when I talk to them or getting restless, I instantly stop and change the subject or just SHUT UP. Usually people like to talk about themselves, so if one actually LISTENS to someone else, they’ll find out a lot.,
WN’s have to have something valuable to add to the conversation, be well groomed, fit and with good character. It’s not that hard to do and not that expensive.
I purchased the Anthony Robbins CD in 2003 from the home shopping network. Excellent CD’s and was life changing for me. I wasn’t Jew aware then, but it still changed my attitudes tremendously. Especially with the attitudes of money and prosperity.
I think the Landmark Forum is ran by a Jew, but I went through the course twice. I highly recommend it for anyone. We all have our story and other people are sick of hearing it. I’m all about doing what works. There were racists in our group but it didn’t matter. They got out of what they got out of IT.
So in essence many a white man needs some sort of finishing school and if that helps let’s get the ball rolling.
MW – an emotional intelligence story.
15 years ago I worked with a young lady at a big oil company. She was extremely pretty, nice figure, but she one bad character defect. Non stop talking. I would see her at the break room and she would monopolize the entire conversation. People would tune her out, ignore her or just read the paper while she was speaking. A lot of times people would just leave when they saw her.
One day just the two of us were outside on morning break. She was belaboring a date that didn’t materialize into date #2. She really wanted to get married and have white children.
I said hun, can I be honest with you? She said of course, I know you’d never say something to me to be mean. I respect your opinion. I said you never stop talking. People cannot get a word in edgewise. I said I don’t know if it’s a bad habit or nervousness but you are driving good men away. Men hear non-stop blathering from mom, co-workers, sisters, they don’t want it with you.
Her eyes welled up. I felt like crap for even saying anything. She said AG, I’m afraid if I stop talking, nothing will be said.
I told her, it’s the exact opposite. Conversations have an ebb and flow. You talk, one person listens, etc. Maybe if you allowed some SILENCE for a few seconds these men could get a word in edgewise and maybe YOU could hear what they have to say. Men hate long winded conversations. Use one liners. Get to the point, executive summary, etc.
The light bulb went on in her head in a very big way. She heeded what I had to say. She got married a year later to a wonderful man and they have many children.
Isn’t emotional intelligence great?